Travel and Packing Tips for Solo Female Travelers

Category: Lifestyle

Staying Green While Traveling

Over the years at home, I’ve been working on living ‘greener’ especially when it comes to plastics. But when I’d travel, I’d revert back to bottled water and too many plastic bags. Not anymore! To my surprise, the transition to greener options was easier than I thought. I already had all of the items in my kitchen, with my hiking gear, or in my bag of reusable shopping bags. Here are some of the changes I’ve made:

Water Filter and Bottle – I rarely drink anything except water, so the taste of it and what’s in it matters to me. I filter water at home and although most of the places I travel have had safe drinking water, I would use bottled water when I traveled. This meant I had to find a place to buy bottled water, make sure I had enough until I could get back to the store, and accumulate a mountain of empty plastic bottles.

In my hiking gear I have a perfectly good Grayl bottle that is an amazing water filter. Because I mostly day hike, the Grayl bottle was gathering dust in the closet. Now it’s one of the first things to go in my travel bag. Previously I always made room for my Kleen Kanteen stainless bottle (that I use daily). The Grayl bottle is only slightly larger. I can drink directly from the Grayl bottle or if I have the room, I can decant the water into one of my collapsible water bottles. Three I use are Nomader (rolls up, but is very sturdy when in use),  Vapur (rolls up) and Hydrapak (collapses). Now instead of worrying about purchasing all that bottled water and generating all that plastic waste, I simply fill up my Grayl bottle from the bathroom sink and seconds later I have clean and tasteless water.

Shopping Bags – For years I have used reusable grocery shopping bags and now use reusable vegetable and bulk bags as well. I also have several lightweight bags that stuff down to little packets and are easy to keep in my purse for smaller purchases. I take one of these with me when I travel. They’re great to use when doing light shopping while traveling.

Reusable Utensils – As an alternative to eating at restaurants, I often grab something at the grocery store or take out place that requires a fork or spoon. Instead of picking up a plastic fork or spoon, I use the reusable combination fork/spoon that I keep in my purse. Other options are reusable bamboo silverware sets or regular silverware from home. Some people also carry reusable straws.

Small Containers – When I’m sightseeing I like to have small snacks like nuts, trail mix, or peanut M&Ms with me to keep my energy up. I used to travel with a handful of snack-size plastic bags to fill each day from the stash I’d keep in my hostel or hotel room. Instead now I use a small ½ cup plastic container with a screw on lid. I fill it every morning and wash it out at the end of the day.

Wax Wraps – I’ve started using Abeego cloth wax wraps at home instead of plastic wrap and they work great for travel too. They take up little room and are great for a handful of nuts, fruit, a sandwich, cookies and similar items. You just rinse them out after use and they’re ready to reuse. Eventually the wax wears out, but they are recyclable, and last a while before this happens.

I’ll admit that carrying these extra items seems to work against the concept of traveling light, but for me the extra bulk and weight is worth it. By carrying my own filtered water and small amounts of food with me when I’m roaming around, I don’t have to stop and find a restaurant every time I’m hungry or thirsty. Plus, I feel like a more responsible tourist by not contributing to the plastic trash pile in the places I visit.

Train Travel – Through the Scottish Highlands and Then to London

On my recent trip to Scotland and England, I took two longer train trips. The first was from Ft. William (end of the West Highland Way) in Scotland back to Edinburgh and the second was Edinburgh to London.

I fell in love with train travel when I was a kid. We didn’t have a car, and to visit relatives, we had to take the train. Traveling off the beaten path and watching the landscape go by gave me a glimpse into a world that wasn’t visible from the highway. To recapture that feeling, I try to include trains in my travel plans when it makes sense.

On the first journey, I had finished hiking the West Highland Way and was in Ft. William. The bus back to Glasgow or Edinburgh was a shorter and efficient option, but the train chugged through the very areas I had just hiked through. Throughout the hike, the trains were our frequent companion. Hikers go over the train tracks, under the train tracks, and along them in numerous locations on the trail. In other locations, you can see the train traversing the mountainside in the distance. To sit back and see the beautiful highlands and valleys through a different perspective made the decision to choose the train an easy one.

The train ride didn’t disappoint. The route meanders north for a bit and then slowly works its way through the highlands. There’s a day on the hike where for several hours you are walking along an old military road, high in the hills, above the tree line and you can’t see a living thing (except for a few other hikers) or any evidence of civilization for as far as the eye can see in all directions. When we went back through that area, imagine my surprise when the train slowed to a stop at a small station with absolutely nothing visible but a small building and a narrow vacant country road leading off from the station. A man got on the train. Where did he come from? How did he get there? What is like to live here? I would have liked to ask him those questions.

Coming out of the hills, we rode along beautiful Loch Lomond, where we had walked just days before and finally to the more populated areas. It was so nice to re-live this beautiful hike from a comfortable chair, without worrying about my footing. This was the first time I had taken a train through an area I had just hiked. To experience a beautiful area ‘up close’ for days and then to see it as a big picture was really amazing.

The second journey was from Edinburg to London. This was my first trip to England and if I had just flown to London, I would have missed the beautiful countryside and the small towns that lie outside the major cities. The train was crowded that day because an earlier train was cancelled, but it was still nice to sit back, eat my packed lunch (or you could have purchased lunch on the train), and see the sights.

There are a couple of tricks to traveling by train. First there often isn’t a lot of room for large luggage. In most cases, there’s a small luggage rack at one end of the car, but it is limited, and you might have to lift your luggage onto the shelf to get a space. There is a luggage storage area over the seats, but a bag that is U.S. carryon size is probably the largest bag that would fit. For many seats, there is a small amount of space under the seat for a small backpack or purse. If you have a large bag, and I did for both these train rides, try to get in line early so there’s a better chance you’ll find a place for your luggage if the train is crowded.

Although many trains have snacks or sometimes more for sale on the longer train rides, you might have to walk through several cars to get food and the selection is somewhat limited. I try to pick up lunch and snacks before I get on the train to avoid the hassle. Finally, just like on a plane, the temperature in the cabin is unpredictable. Dress in layers so you can remove a layer if it’s warm and carry a sweater or sweatshirt in case it’s cold.

A lot of times when we are traveling, we want to get to our destination as quickly as possible. But sometimes the journey itself can be an important part of the trip. If you want to see parts of a country outside of the tourist areas or the airports or the highways, consider taking the train and watching the scenery out the window.

Traveling With Food Allergies

I have Celiac Disease and cannot eat anything with gluten (primarily wheat and wheat based products) without getting quite ill. I also have friends with serious allergies to shellfish and nuts. It’s hard enough to eat safely in your home area with the ability to ask questions in your primary language, but traveling, especially to areas where I’m unable to understand the menu and ask questions in English, can be a challenge.

Fortunately, the internet has a plethora of information to help people with food allergies when traveling. But, it is important for you to be an advocate for yourself, asking necessary questions and making informed decisions about whether you consider the food safe to eat for your dietary issue.

I primarily travel independently, but recently took a trip to Italy with Road Scholar. Road Scholar does a good job of letting you know if they can accommodate for your particular issue, and made arrangements ahead of time for the meals they provided. For the other meals, I turned to the internet to get some guidance.

A simple google search on ‘how to eat gluten free in Italy’ yielded a number of helpful sources. One that I have used before is Celiac Travel . They have Gluten Free Restaurant Cards for many different countries. The cards explain (in the local language) what people with celiac can and can’t eat. You show the card to the server and often they will bring the card to the chef for guidance. The cards are free (with a request for a voluntary donation). Often, useful forums will pop up in the search that will highlight both good and bad experiences with specific restaurants regarding your particular allergy.

Another helpful option is to use Google Translate to translate the menu to English (or another language). For example, the translation might show that the item is breaded and thus should be avoided. Many times, the menu appears online and you can do some advance planning before you get to the restaurant.

My internet search also showed that Italians in general are quite knowledgeable about Celiac disease and many restaurants have undergone training in proper accommodation. For example, in Italy, many restaurants had gluten free pasta that they cooked in individual portions in water separate from the regular pasta. I soon discovered the GROM chain of gelato where I could eat gelato to my heart’s content without concern about cross contamination.

Regardless of your food allergy, it is important to determine what might be your ‘go to’ meals if you have difficulty finding meals on the menu that accommodate your needs to your satisfaction. For me, grilled chicken on a salad without dressing, a fruit and cheese plate, or plain meat and vegetables are usually reasonable alternatives.  Many places I’ve traveled also have a dedicated gluten free/allergy free bakery, where sometimes you can find savory items in addition to sweets.

Restaurant owners, chefs, and servers generally want you to have a good experience at their restaurant. Many chefs are well educated in food allergy accommodations. By doing some advance research and making a list of the items you know you can eat (and not eat), you should be able to find something you can eat in a restaurant. If you can’t, politely excuse yourself and try another restaurant.

In many locations, people have access to local grocery stores and other sources of allergy safe foods if they have concern about restaurant meals. I discovered that in Italy,  the local pharmacies stock gluten free food in addition to the grocery store, because Celiac Disease is a medical condition. In addition, many of the open air markets have fruit, vegetables, and other allergy safe food.

Armed with knowledge about your condition, the ability to translate the menu (or request a menu in your primary language), the willingness to ask questions of the server and chef, some guidance on the ingredients commonly found in the local cuisine, and some flexibility to substitute known safe foods, travelers with food allergies can travel in many counties and eat in selected restaurants with confidence.

Alternatives To Eating At Restaurants

Traveling on a budget can be a challenge in areas where restaurant eating is expensive. In addition, for those with food allergies or other eating considerations, finding alternative meal options can be very helpful.

Several years ago, I spent a couple of weeks in Switzerland, staying with family. I asked where the locals eat when they were traveling around Switzerland, and the answer was – the grocery store. Two of the largest chains, Coop and Migros, had cafeterias in their stores that offered a wide variety of meals and individual items that were freshly made and relatively inexpensive.

I began to observe that many grocery stores in the U.S., as well as other countries, had cafeterias as well. But most importantly, I began using the local grocery store (or in some areas, the more charming series of cheese, bread, sausage, wine stores, etc.) and local outdoor markets as my primary source of meals while traveling. I only go to restaurants occasionally or to sample special cuisine.

No longer was the grocery store just for snacks and bottled water! If the hotel room has a refrigerator, you can pick up items for a couple of days at a time. Here are some suggestions:

Breakfast – fresh fruit that’s already cut up, yogurt, various granolas and cereals (packaged and bulk), hard boiled eggs (they’re the brightly colored eggs in the dairy case in many stores), various baked goods, bagels and cream cheese, etc.

Lunch – Deli meat and cheese (fresh sliced or packaged), rolls and breads, fruit, bakery items, chips, cheese blocks, crackers, dried Italian salami (and others), prepackaged snack items. I often like to bring a lunch with me when I sightsee and find a place on site to relax and eat. Sometimes, eating lunch at a restaurant takes too much time away from sightseeing.

Dinner – Many stores have store prepared hot items, salad bars, and pizza. You can also get items for a picnic such as roasted chicken, potato salad, coleslaw, bread, and cheese. Almost every area has beautiful parks or gardens available to enjoy your picnic. Some areas also offer free concerts or street performers (buskers) in the evening to entertain you while you eat. One of my favorite meals in Paris was meeting up with a group of people for a picnic of cheeses, sausages, bread, fruit, and wine in a local park on a beautiful evening.

Eating is an important part of traveling and certainly experiencing local restaurant meals exposes you to some great cuisine. But if you are on a budget, and don’t want to eat all your meals at restaurants, you have other options in the local grocery store or neighborhood market.

 

Table For One – Tips for Eating Alone in Restaurants

Traveling solo often involves eating meals in restaurants by yourself. Many women (and men for that matter) feel awkward about going to a restaurant alone. I’ve found that many restaurants are quite solo friendly, especially if you follow a few simple suggestions.

First, think about what setting makes you the most comfortable. Many restaurants have several seating options:

  • The two-person table – this is a good option if you want to minimize interaction with others and you’d rather read a book or surf the net on your small electronic device. The extra room gives you more space to spread out.
  • Eating at the bar or long counter – I learned this trick when I traveled alone for business. Many restaurant bars have TVs tuned to different channels and are a good option for having casual conversations with those sitting on either side of you, or just catching up on the news or sports event. Ask if the bar area has a separate menu or whether you can order off the regular menu. Also, many bar areas have small tables in a casual setting that you can use alone or join another person.
  • Communal tables – This is my favorite option, where you share a table with multiple other diners, each on their own separate check. Just like at a family meal, you have multiple people to talk with or as an alternative, listen quietly to the conversations around you.

Secondly, try to avoid the busiest times. I find a late lunch or early dinner works well. The pace is slower and the servers are often more able to accommodate your request for a single table near the window or the patio. Keep in mind that lunch is a better value in most areas. As you stake out places to eat, ask about when the menu changes from lunch to dinner or about any early evening specials. Also, if you are trying to order in a different language and/or have questions about various dishes, the servers have more time to interact with you when you come at a less busy time.

Third, bring something to do to occupy your time while you are waiting for your meal if you are sitting by yourself. Bring a book, some tourist brochures, word or number puzzles, or simply surf the net or read on your phone. Many restaurants have wi-fi available. Some people use their computer on the table. If you choose to do this, make sure you’ve chosen a seating option that gives you enough room to do this without encroaching on your neighbor at the bar or counter.

Finally, because you are on your own, you can choose whatever courses you wish without worrying about impacting your fellow diners. Sometimes I’ll order one or two appetizers and dessert. Tell your server your plans and whether you want all your selections at once or sequentially.

Experiencing local cuisine is an important part of travel. If you are new to solo dining, try a few trial meals at your local restaurants to find out which approach is right for you.

 

Finding a Community on the Bike Trail (or Anywhere Else)

Sometimes traveling is about the destination, but it can also include learning how to view experiences through a different lens – even when you are not far from home. People who are considering traveling by themselves often have two major fears 1) the possibility that something bad will happen and 2) that they will be lonely and miserable. The first one is a topic for another time, but I’ve learned that with a simple shift in mindset, I can go a long way in mitigating the second one.

I live in Connecticut where we have miles and miles of ‘Rails to Trails’ bike/walking/running trails (see link). I try to ride my bike three times a week, weather and spirit permitting. The trail goes right near my apartment complex and I can just hop on and ride my typical 12 – 15 miles (round trip) in either direction. Nine-thirty in the morning is my time to ride and most of the people who are on the trail during the week at that time are retirees or stay at home parents, often on the trail by themselves. People for the most part are pleasant and we typically acknowledge everyone we pass with a ‘hello’ or ‘good morning’.

A recent Sunday morning was a particularly beautiful day – sunny, low 60’s, low humidity. I broke out of my ‘avoid the weekend crowds on the trail’ mindset and headed out for my favorite ride to the trail bridge over the Farmington River. Perhaps it was something in the air, but I think it was more my awareness was targeting the right things. I noticed:

  • The ‘hellos’ and ‘good mornings’ seemed cheerier and more heartfelt.
  • The man who was running while pushing a running stroller with a ten-year-old boy (give or take) who appeared to have Downs Syndrome. The boy was enthusiastically greeting everyone he passed. I’m not sure whose smile was broader – the man’s or the boy’s.
  • The man walking gingerly holding a newborn baby in a baby carrier, likely giving the new mother a few minutes of rest.
  • The person with the bike shirt covered with sponsors tinkering with a bike on the side of path that belonged to a woman my age who, like me, didn’t have a clue how to fix it.
  • The woman (likely 50 plus) on roller blades, who was approaching the intersection where I was crossing and shouted: ‘Is it clear?’ It was indeed and she flew by me. You go girl!
  • The younger person holding the traffic on the crossing busy street so the older couple could cross without hurrying.

I began to think about how the people on the trail that morning were a community. We greeted each other, shared time together, conversed, helped each other, and appreciated each other.

I’ve told people that one of keys to traveling solo is to learn to participate with others – in a sort of community – for even brief periods of time wherever you travel. It’s hard to be lonely when you’re part of a community. These quasi-communities pop up when you’re on a tour with others, eating dinner at a communal table, or sitting in the common area in a hostel or hotel. They are not meant to be permanent – just people sharing the same time, place, and experience.

People have asked me how to join one of these communities. The easiest way is to just say hello and begin a casual conversation. If the person doesn’t want to participate, find another person. But what I’ve come to realize is that sometimes just being with others doing similar activities can be a community. You don’t have to engage in a meaningful conversation.

That day, I said nothing more than a bunch of ‘Good Mornings’ and one exuberant ‘You Go Girl,’ but yet, I was truly part of the community of people on the bike trail that morning. It’s all a matter of perspective. When you are traveling solo or doing activities by yourself, you can perceive that you are all alone in a group of strangers or as an alternative, you are part of a group (a community) of people doing the same thing as you are.

When I used to travel for business by myself, I often felt lonely especially at night. I was determined to learn to travel comfortably and happily by myself. Now I look forward to each trip and focus on the sights I will see, the culture I will experience, and the people I will share this experience with in a progressive series of communities that form throughout my trip. A good place to practice forming your communities is at home. Try it the next time you are on the bike trail.

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